When I mention the fact that I went to a girls’
school for high school, I get a full range of responses, varying from an
“Oh, really?” that means, “So that explains it” to an “Oh, really?” that
means, “I pity you.” While I was still young and inexperienced, these
responses bothered me. I would hide in my room, rock in my chair
and cry to my cats. But my high school soon taught me to stand proud.
Now when someone implies that there’s anything wrong with single-sex education,
I shout “NO!” at the person loudly and forcefully, knee them in the groin,
then crush his or her instep with my heel and run away. Nobody can
tell me my four years at girls’ school didn’t fully prepare me to deal
with the real world.
It isn’t as though I spent four years looking around and wondering,
“Where are the boys?” (Although I did that at the prom.) On
the contrary, I liked the fact that I could sit at a table full of girlfriends
at lunch every day and not be afraid to say what was on my mind for fear
that I would be mocked, ignored, or asked on a date. I could walk
the halls without fear of having my looks or figure judged; just my clothes
and shoes.
It’s a magical experience when a teenage girl realizes that she, along
with a pack of malicious, giggling friends, can make life a living hell
for a young, nervous, twenty-three year old male graduate student who is
trying to teach them history. Looking back, Mr. Capazzola, I feel
your pain. Sitting in a small, dark, enclosed space with a class
of fourteen-year-old girls who are watching a documentary film on the Vietnam
War and hooting at the shirtless soldiers, is enough to bring out the fight-or-flight
response in anyone. The things we did to our teachers may have been
obnoxious and cruel, but they were always subtle, which made them worse.
It is one thing to turn all the chairs in the classroom to face the wrong
way, but it is quite another to say to a teacher in the middle of class,
“What are those little patterns on your socks supposed to be?”
It wasn’t always fun and games, though. I would read Seventeen
magazine articles that advised cozying up to “that hottie who sits next
to you in English class,” and sigh mournfully. Worse still were the
“Is He Right for you?” quizzes which I took dutifully despite my utter
ineligibility, chewing my pencil thoughtfully and making up a composite
boyfriend.
What I disliked the most about the entire experience were the opportunities
to mingle with the opposite sex that were forced upon us by the administration
once or twice a year. These happened on designated “Special Days”,
in which half the population of our ‘brother’ school came to my school,
and half the population of our school went to theirs for an afternoon of
mixed classes, fun and unspeakable awkwardness. I can’t imagine what
kind of incestuous values our school was promoting by calling the boys’
school across town our ‘brother’ school-since the relations between students
at the two schools were often much more than familial.
I didn’t find it a difficult transition from high school to college.
It only took me a few weeks to stop pointing and giggling. I’m truly
grateful for those boy-free four years that allowed me to devote myself
to my studies and to put my education first. And now that I’m in
college, I can put all of that learning stuff behind me and focus on what
really matters in life: catching a man.